This is called the Monsoon season in Arizona, but it's not even chubasco to date. We heard rain for the first time during the night but no signs of it today. Just beautiful sunny weather - like the rest of the year.
My 22 yr old grandson and his dog Moose are living with us for a while. He moved down from Prescott and is waiting to start his new job. Just before he moved in, I got a dog for the first time in over 24 years - rescued from the Humane Society - Licorice, a mix of Dachshund and Chihuahua. Fortunately, they get along. Moose is part Blue Healer and pitt bull. Looks like a beautiful pit bull with gold in his black hair and gold eyes. The sweetest dog ever. Licorice is black with a white stripe down her tummy. She looks like a skunk!
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Friends die who don't have cancer
So many medical problems we can die from. Steve had atherosclosis, Alice was 92 with a weak heart. 20 years difference in their ages.
Now I'm after my husband to take good care of himself - for me! Selfish! but I want him to outlive me! Selfish because I don't want to have to figure out all of his finances. I have enough trouble with my own. But when a friend dies suddenly, a wife is more aware of possible medical problems that could make her a widow. It's like becoming a black widow spider. Let's think up a better name than Widow!
My dear friends ask me how my family is - well, I haven't heard from them today so I would lie assume they are all okay! But they are not, of course. My son's 20 yr old step-daughter is pregnant, no father, just released from prison, trying to get into a probation home for unwed mothers soon to deliver. That girl's oldest brother won't even talk to her mother because he has developed a good life in Utah. The third child has been in juvenile detention but just released to the custody of my other son.
I guess some of you would consider that good news. No one is in jail at the moment. We don't have anyone dying at the moment. Praise the Lord and pass the biscuits!
Sad that our sons were raised exactly the same way but with one having his dad's personality and one having his mother's, they are almost exactly opposites. The only thing they have in common is they are both hardworkers and like to help other people.
Actually, my youngest son has rescued every woman he's ever lived with. First wife: married 3 weeks after she had a miscarriage with someone else. Later they had 2 sons. Next girlfriend: she like to talk and would keep him up all night talking then he had to just throw her stuff out in the yard to get rid of her. Next girlfriend with whom he had another son. She was married to a criminal who had good lawyers and got the child declared his even though the DNA proved he was not the father. Wonderful rules that rule child care - even though he is better off with his mom than my son. Rebounding from the relationship he married a girl he felt sorry for because she had MS. It lasted 3 months and then he moved to Tucson. Met his present wife at AA which I thought would work out. Starting drinking champagne at their wedding and never quit until about 3 years ago. Got arrested for domestic violence and had to quit - and get rid of all the guns in the house. He went to rehab, wife did not. I ended up taking care of 3 grandchildren over the next 3 years - off and on.
I love would to hear from more moms or dad who is going thru this kind of difficulty. We raised the kids well, raised them to be clean and neat and courteous to everyone, but this one got into the wrong crowd early and they made him feel good. This is not the way I wanted my kids to end up. My oldest son is doing good working several jobs to pay the bills and asked for custody of the 16 yr old nephew because his mother doesn't want him anymore.
Life and death happens.
Now I'm after my husband to take good care of himself - for me! Selfish! but I want him to outlive me! Selfish because I don't want to have to figure out all of his finances. I have enough trouble with my own. But when a friend dies suddenly, a wife is more aware of possible medical problems that could make her a widow. It's like becoming a black widow spider. Let's think up a better name than Widow!
My dear friends ask me how my family is - well, I haven't heard from them today so I would lie assume they are all okay! But they are not, of course. My son's 20 yr old step-daughter is pregnant, no father, just released from prison, trying to get into a probation home for unwed mothers soon to deliver. That girl's oldest brother won't even talk to her mother because he has developed a good life in Utah. The third child has been in juvenile detention but just released to the custody of my other son.
I guess some of you would consider that good news. No one is in jail at the moment. We don't have anyone dying at the moment. Praise the Lord and pass the biscuits!
Sad that our sons were raised exactly the same way but with one having his dad's personality and one having his mother's, they are almost exactly opposites. The only thing they have in common is they are both hardworkers and like to help other people.
Actually, my youngest son has rescued every woman he's ever lived with. First wife: married 3 weeks after she had a miscarriage with someone else. Later they had 2 sons. Next girlfriend: she like to talk and would keep him up all night talking then he had to just throw her stuff out in the yard to get rid of her. Next girlfriend with whom he had another son. She was married to a criminal who had good lawyers and got the child declared his even though the DNA proved he was not the father. Wonderful rules that rule child care - even though he is better off with his mom than my son. Rebounding from the relationship he married a girl he felt sorry for because she had MS. It lasted 3 months and then he moved to Tucson. Met his present wife at AA which I thought would work out. Starting drinking champagne at their wedding and never quit until about 3 years ago. Got arrested for domestic violence and had to quit - and get rid of all the guns in the house. He went to rehab, wife did not. I ended up taking care of 3 grandchildren over the next 3 years - off and on.
I love would to hear from more moms or dad who is going thru this kind of difficulty. We raised the kids well, raised them to be clean and neat and courteous to everyone, but this one got into the wrong crowd early and they made him feel good. This is not the way I wanted my kids to end up. My oldest son is doing good working several jobs to pay the bills and asked for custody of the 16 yr old nephew because his mother doesn't want him anymore.
Life and death happens.
Friday, February 6, 2009
How to teach a child to make decisions!
Not good at posting on line. Since Thanksgiving have had lots going on. Thrilled that Obama is elected and trying real hard to get the economy heading in the right direction.
Why do we have children before we learn to be a parent? To drive a car we have to take a test. To become a parent, have sex. Doesn't seem right. A parent should know how to raise a child before they ever have it. One of the many things wrong with our world - we don't learn to parent until we are grandparents - then our kids don't want our advice because they think they know more than we do.
My son is married for the 3rd time, fathered children by 3 women - one he wasn't married to. Maybe I never taught him how to make decisions. He always jumps into a relationship because he's lonely and wants to rescue the gal. Takes after his dad. He rescued the first wife after she had a miscarriage caused by another guy. The marriage took place 3 weeks later. She bragged to me that at least they didn't have to get married! Quite the social graces. Marriage lasted til they had 2 kids and got arrested for selling drugs.
He had an affair, she got pregnant, but he got dumped, married the first gal that was nice to him. Marriage lasted 6 months. Met the 3rd wife at AA but that didn't last long. She got her 3 kids back from foster care and after one year, they married and started the drug thing all over again. Lost one house, trashed. Then had a child together. My DIL has 4 children by 3 men - and all have been arrested and in jail because of her - including my son. Now, why do I think he makes bad decisions!
They call me when they need rescuing - like 3 years ago when they were evicted, had no place to live, no money, asked me to take the 2 youngest kids while my son went into 6 mos. rehab. I had the kids for 7 weeks and couldn't take it anymore. 13 yr old was difficult. 6 yr old only wanted her mom. The next year they needed rescuing again, take the then 7 yr old and the dog for a few months. It was a lot of work, but we loved having the granddaughter with us. She's beautiful, fun, giggles. Good relationship. Then we added her half brother in January on probation until his 18 birthday in July. Wow!
GDTR left in March, Grdson left on July 6. We just sat and listened to the silence for a couple of weeks. Old people doing nothing.
Why do we have children before we learn to be a parent? To drive a car we have to take a test. To become a parent, have sex. Doesn't seem right. A parent should know how to raise a child before they ever have it. One of the many things wrong with our world - we don't learn to parent until we are grandparents - then our kids don't want our advice because they think they know more than we do.
My son is married for the 3rd time, fathered children by 3 women - one he wasn't married to. Maybe I never taught him how to make decisions. He always jumps into a relationship because he's lonely and wants to rescue the gal. Takes after his dad. He rescued the first wife after she had a miscarriage caused by another guy. The marriage took place 3 weeks later. She bragged to me that at least they didn't have to get married! Quite the social graces. Marriage lasted til they had 2 kids and got arrested for selling drugs.
He had an affair, she got pregnant, but he got dumped, married the first gal that was nice to him. Marriage lasted 6 months. Met the 3rd wife at AA but that didn't last long. She got her 3 kids back from foster care and after one year, they married and started the drug thing all over again. Lost one house, trashed. Then had a child together. My DIL has 4 children by 3 men - and all have been arrested and in jail because of her - including my son. Now, why do I think he makes bad decisions!
They call me when they need rescuing - like 3 years ago when they were evicted, had no place to live, no money, asked me to take the 2 youngest kids while my son went into 6 mos. rehab. I had the kids for 7 weeks and couldn't take it anymore. 13 yr old was difficult. 6 yr old only wanted her mom. The next year they needed rescuing again, take the then 7 yr old and the dog for a few months. It was a lot of work, but we loved having the granddaughter with us. She's beautiful, fun, giggles. Good relationship. Then we added her half brother in January on probation until his 18 birthday in July. Wow!
GDTR left in March, Grdson left on July 6. We just sat and listened to the silence for a couple of weeks. Old people doing nothing.
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Grandchildren are wonderful!
When I hear some young mother say when they have a new baby - that they will have the next 18 years to take care of them then the kid if outta there - I can't help but laugh. That's when the goodies start - after 18.
Everything they need costs more. And then your kids have kids and the children have no money so the grandparents end up helping the grandkids. I know for sure I'm not alone in this. Love the grandkids and like to help, but someday - soon - grandma's money is going to run out. Then what!
Today my 19 yr old grandson and girlfriend moved back to our lovely city after a year away. Neither of their parents can help them get started on a new life. Very little support from them. When it rains it pours - as you all know. We had planned to have our 9 yr old granddaugther spend the weekend with us so her parents could go away for a weekend to celebrate their anniversary. But then the grandson decided to move to Tucson. He was planning to bring his big dog. We didn't want the dog here. I made a deal with him. I am giving up something so you have to give up something and that is - guess what - the big dog. He reluctantly did that, but had trouble finding anyone to take it. It was such a complicated situation that I didn't even want to know. Anyway the dog has a new home and so do Cody and Krystal. At the Motel 6 tonight. with her Chihuahua. They were extremely happy and thankful for our help. They are good kids that just need a break. Wish I had more to give them. Maybe God will bless me with more ways to help them. At least I found them a little studio guest house to live in month to month with the rent covering all the utilities.
Grandchildren are wonderful. My 21 yr old who became that age Sept. 30 just told me he changed his email address. UGH. I had sent him an e-card for his special birthday by email. He didn't get it. So what do I do! Call Target I guess and ask what happened.
Gotta get to bed. We waited at Motel 6 until they arrived at almost 11pm. Time to sleep.
Everything they need costs more. And then your kids have kids and the children have no money so the grandparents end up helping the grandkids. I know for sure I'm not alone in this. Love the grandkids and like to help, but someday - soon - grandma's money is going to run out. Then what!
Today my 19 yr old grandson and girlfriend moved back to our lovely city after a year away. Neither of their parents can help them get started on a new life. Very little support from them. When it rains it pours - as you all know. We had planned to have our 9 yr old granddaugther spend the weekend with us so her parents could go away for a weekend to celebrate their anniversary. But then the grandson decided to move to Tucson. He was planning to bring his big dog. We didn't want the dog here. I made a deal with him. I am giving up something so you have to give up something and that is - guess what - the big dog. He reluctantly did that, but had trouble finding anyone to take it. It was such a complicated situation that I didn't even want to know. Anyway the dog has a new home and so do Cody and Krystal. At the Motel 6 tonight. with her Chihuahua. They were extremely happy and thankful for our help. They are good kids that just need a break. Wish I had more to give them. Maybe God will bless me with more ways to help them. At least I found them a little studio guest house to live in month to month with the rent covering all the utilities.
Grandchildren are wonderful. My 21 yr old who became that age Sept. 30 just told me he changed his email address. UGH. I had sent him an e-card for his special birthday by email. He didn't get it. So what do I do! Call Target I guess and ask what happened.
Gotta get to bed. We waited at Motel 6 until they arrived at almost 11pm. Time to sleep.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
It's after midnight so it's October now!
My grandson Kyle turned 21 yrs old today. He lives in Prescott so I didn't get to be with him for this big day. Friends took him out to dinner. He worked and attended college all day long. He's about 6'4" tall and has to look down on me. All 3 of my grandson are that tall. Just glad they are nice to me! :o)
Has anyone tried the Debbie Green bags to keep vegies and fruit lasting longer? They really work. My lettuce hasn't gotten soggy. Finally, I'm not afraid to buy fresh vegies and fruit!
This Texas gal grew up in a Republican family so the first time I voted it was for Richard Nixon. Oh, how the Texans hated that a Catholic was running for president. Fort Worth is the Bible belt which evidently didn't include Catholics! That seems quite strange now that we were so unaware of our bigotry. When Bob and I moved to Tucson, we registered as Democrats and have been in that party ever since - over 30 years. Working for all the Dem candidates.
Hope you are voting for the best man - Sen. Barack Obama. More later - I'm falling asleep at the computer!
Has anyone tried the Debbie Green bags to keep vegies and fruit lasting longer? They really work. My lettuce hasn't gotten soggy. Finally, I'm not afraid to buy fresh vegies and fruit!
This Texas gal grew up in a Republican family so the first time I voted it was for Richard Nixon. Oh, how the Texans hated that a Catholic was running for president. Fort Worth is the Bible belt which evidently didn't include Catholics! That seems quite strange now that we were so unaware of our bigotry. When Bob and I moved to Tucson, we registered as Democrats and have been in that party ever since - over 30 years. Working for all the Dem candidates.
Hope you are voting for the best man - Sen. Barack Obama. More later - I'm falling asleep at the computer!
Friday, July 18, 2008
Rats! Again!
Eeek! This is the baby rat caught in our humane trap last night. This is the SIXTH this week. They had made a nest in our storage shed with our outdoor UMBRELLA - tore it to shreds so badly that we had to throw it away. What a waste! So we set out this humane trap and when caught, Bob takes them out to the desert and lets them go. I just hope they don't find their way back over here!
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Old in body but not in mind!
Not happy with the MRI results after seeing my doctor today. There is not enough wrong with me to do anything about the pain in my leg. But she did refer me to a hip specialist and physical therapy to get me moving more - so I can at least put on socks! Right now I can't lift my left leg high enough to painlessly put on socks or tennis shoes. Can wear only slip-ons. UGH! This makes me feel so old! It's sort of emotional because I am used to being so active and on the go and now have aching in my left leg and pelvis every day. So I just decided to take my pain meds and B-complex for energy and try to ignore the pain as much as possible. My friends have it much worse - both having double mastectomies this week. I have nothing to complain about!!!
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